How to Set Self-Love Goals for the New Year

The start of a new year (and really any time of the year) is a powerful time to reflect on where you've been and where you want to go. I have to tell you that setting new goals is not always easy. Why? Because alot of times we start strong and then.....we.....slowly..... fizzle (insert melting emoji!)

But this year, I want to encourage you to instead of focusing only on your external goals (because let's face it, we always think weight first), why not turn inward and prioritize self-love? Setting self-love goals can help you nurture your mind, body, and soul, creating a strong foundation for everything else in your life, and a key part of setting your self-love goals is to start by looking at yourself from the inside out and being realistic about your own expectiations!

Having a healthy mind, setting priorities for yourself, and putting yourself first isn’t just important—it’s truly admirable. So, here it is... these are the things I’ve been working on for myself, and I’d love to share them with you, my friend.

1. Stop Criticizing Yourself

One of the first steps to self-love is silencing that inner critic. Begin by noticing when self-critical thoughts creep in, then gently replace them with kinder, more supportive ones. A goal could be as simple as writing down one positive thing about yourself each day to counter negativity. Don't only write it down... look at yourself in the mirror and say it outloud. If you haven't already, I recommend you read my post titled "There's an Imposter in the Room" - click here to read it now.

2. Give Yourself Grace

Girl, let me tell you that we live in a world of unauthenticity! What you see online is definitely not what you get. Social media is filled with people putting on a front, posting beautiful content, but deep down inside they are broken and hiding behind their screens. We’re all human, and perfection definitely isn't the goal. Make a conscious effort to stop comparing yourself to everyone else you see, forgive yourself for mistakes you've made and celebrate progress over perfection (heck ya!) This could look like setting reminders to pause and acknowledge your wins, no matter how small.

3. Set Healthy Boundaries

Boundaries are acts of self-respect. Repeat after me... R-E-S-P-E-C-T find out what it means to me!! Reflect on relationships or commitments that drain you (I call it suck the joy out of you) and practice saying 'no' when needed. The word "no" is a super power word and the more you use it when you need to, I think the more empowered you will feel for not letting things drain you and your time. A great self-love goal here is identifying three areas where you can prioritize your well-being this year by saying no and putting yourslef first.

4. Take Care of Your Health

Self-love often starts with physical care. I purchased a walking pad this past year and have been trying to walk at least 30 minutes and/or 3,000 steps at night. This was the start of my goal and I plan on slowly increasing it but, between my steps at work and walking after dinner, it helps me keep my body moving. You can also start by commiting to small, sustainable habits like drinking more water, getting regular exercise, or meditating. Remember, it’s not about drastic changes but consistent actions that show love to yourself.

5. Write It Down

Ok... if you don't have one already, please get yourslef a journal and start writing stuff down! Writing clarifies your intentions. Whether it’s journaling your self-love journey or setting reminders for self-care, putting your goals into words makes them feel more real. Create a "self-love list" with daily, weekly, and monthly actions to keep yourself on track.

This year, let your self-love goals guide you. Remember, loving yourself isn’t selfish—it’s the foundation for living a full and joyful life. What will your first self-love goal be? Send me a message and let me know how you're doing!

Until next time,

Live Free, Stay Unscripted!